She says she would never actually have sex with someone who has a penis, even though she can appreciate men being attractive. She just finds penises too weird. (I think penises are weird and messy too, but not in a bad way, and I feel the same about vaginas. Bodies are messy.)
This just takes some getting used to for me, since I always assumed it was the other way around. I mean, she’s actually dated guys, and I haven’t. And from how it seemed at the time, she had pretty serious crushes on guys.
And, she’s always said she doesn’t want to call herself lesbian or bi. I guess I assumed that was more real, and less aspirational. Poor Sparkly.