What will it take to convince Sparkly that she is not too normal or conservative for me?
She treats people with respect in person regardless of what she thinks of their choices or their opinions, and (a) that’s more than a lot of people do! (b) it’s all I would ask for. The ability to treat people decently and appreciate the good about them even when you think some of their beliefs are ridiculous is honestly a lot rarer than agreeing with me about feminism. And I would much rather spend time with someone who disagrees with me but is gentle about it than someone who agrees but is dogmatic and nasty about people who disagree.
It honestly scares me, that she might pre-emptively push me away over something that I don’t consider a problem.