Poor Sparkly and her gender, oh my god. Poor Sparkly. “I feel unwomanly and unmanly”, she says. So I try to get in both “You are great the way you are” and “If you want to be different that’s okay”.
Sparkly, this is where it’s a good thing that I’m less cautious/more open-minded about these things. You never need to worry about me judging you or getting insecure or anything like that. I will love you and support you however I can through all your tough feelings and whatever you decide to do about them. So don’t worry about that, at least.