You get to insist that people stop doing things that hurt you. You get to avoid them and refuse to talk to them. You get to tell people what they did and why you’re cutting them off.
You don’t get to make them feel as bad as you think they should about what they did.
You probably can’t, practically speaking, and also, the kinds of things you would have to do, to make people feel bad/guilty/etc., are generally not okay.