I should probably stop telling myself I definitely don’t have it at all, when what I actually mean is
- I have it inconsistently and not very often– I can’t sum it up with a list of bad sounds. Whether a sound bothers me seems to depend a lot on context (lack of other background sounds, whether I’m trying to focus on something, repetitiveness of the sound)
- I can deal with it– I have disproportionate anger and frustration and, yes, violent intrusive thoughts about unpleasant sounds sometimes (as well as about other sensory things) but I’m very practiced at relaxing and letting them wash over me and reminding myself that other people are allowed to fidget. So, like, it’s “not that bad”… for a certain value of “not that bad”.